It's ok to be alone

I realize that No one wants to be alone. However, many are using poor judgment when choosing a companion. Gods plan is not for us to be alone but too many people are not waiting on God, following his path or listening for his instructions. How do you know that you are off path? If your relationship is constantly putting you through, if your giving chance after chance and things still don't seem to be any better, it may be signs that you are not where God wants you to be. Now listen close because I'm not saying that in a relationship you don't endure, because everyone goes through trails and tribulations but trust there is a difference in arguing over not spending enough time together, not helping out around the house, not rubbing your back or being more attentive and someone cheating time and time again, someone who is not a team player in the relationship and leaving you with a heavy burden, someone who is controlling, obsessive and or abusive physically, emotionally, verbally or mentally. We can not change anyone, we can only change ourselves and we will either change to know what we want and deserve or we can change to fit into someone else's world and make them happy. Changing ourselves to benefit someone else is never the right choice. We also can not change someone else no matter how hard we try, that person has to want and be willing to make changes themselves to benefit themselves not for another person. Everlasting change is change that we want for ourselves, changing for someone else is always temporary because when things don't work out they revert back to themselves until the next candidate comes along that requires you to change for them. Sometimes GOD wants us to be alone, he wants us to wait, be still, meditate on his word, stop and listen to his instructions and he will place the right person in our path. Don't allow a need to be with someone make you choose just anyone. SheUplifts, The Postal Pen VSJ~

It's worth it!

Life is a beautiful thing, but in living that life we encounter lots of things, both good and bad. I am a positive happy go lucky person, but I am very aware of life and all that life can put us through. My focus is to stay happy, uplift others and inspire others to believe in themselves, believe that all things are possible, and that they can control how they react to things. I am that person who loves to see everyone happy, and I worry about others.I know I cannot save the world But that doesn't stop me from wanting to. Sometimes I get overwhelmed with worry, holding the weight of the world on my shoulders and in my mind. It's kind of stressful, but then I know that God doesn't put on us more than we can bare. I pray my way through the worry, the stress and the thoughts of all that I would like to do, but me being only one person, only me how can I possibly accomplish all the things that are in my heart, my head and in my soul. My faith will allow me to do as much as I can, it will help me to make it as far as God has laid out my path and when things get tough I know I can always depend on him. It's just so hard to be strong, so hard to maintain the weight Of the world on my shoulders, so hard to keep it all together when it all seems like so much. Through it all I say it's worth it, it's worth every struggle, every challenge and all the worry in the world, if I can save not only my kids but to touch the lives of many. WHAT IS WORTH THE STRUGGLE FOR YOU?

What do you do, to get you through the storm?

Have you ever set goals and didn't reach them? Have you ever started something and didn't finish? Well it occasionally happens to us all. Never allow a temporary setback to keep you from reaching your dream. The devil is always busy and his goal is to throw us off path. Falling down, is a natural thing, many of us set our minds to do things and life gets in the way, causing us to stumble, fall, or come to a complete halt. That doesn't mean we can not get back to our lives, pick up where we left off and complete our goals. Whenever I hit a rough patch in life, I pray. I pray letting God know my problems, I pray that he gets me through, and I pray for the strength and courage to follow my course. Praying is a big part of my life,it helps me to stay connected, and to keep calm when the storms arise.Prayer is my connection with God. I learned a long time ago that prayer helps me to keep my connection with God, to get me through hard times, and to keep me at a level of sanity and calm. Everyone has their techniques on what they do to stay calm, Mine is through prayer, what is yours? Yoga, meditating? Reading, Exercise or what?

She Uplifts (The Postal Pen): How I experience Joy

She Uplifts (The Postal Pen): How I experience Joy: Life is short and over the years I have learned that you have to create your own happiness. It is a plus when you have someone who makes y...

How I experience Joy

Life is short and over the years I have learned that you have to create your own happiness. It is a plus when you have someone who makes you happy, but even then, they will not make you happy all the time. I create my happiness, I do this by being mindful of how I react to things that can potentially make me unhappy. Life affects us all, there will be countless incidents and occasions that will alter our mood and our feelings but when we CHOOSE to be happy despite the situations is where we take back our power. I encounter things all the time that make me upset or unhappy, but I say to myself You can let this continue to make you miserable for the entire day, or you can say this too shall pass (I love this saying), and know that God has handled much worse situations in my life and brought me from the bottom to the top every time. You see you have to believe that you are in control of your emotions, you have to have faith that GOD is bigger than any Storm (Life situations) that comes your way. Choose to be happy, Choose to experience joy. Walk in Joy/ Not Chaos, VSJ~

Some people need validation.

In life everyone needs and wants to feel important, but not all of us need that from just anyone. Usually it is someone you love, like your spouse, parents, your child. Many men and women feel the need to gain attention of people on the outside rather than getting that attention at home. One should not need to have an other human being make them feel special. You should have confidence in who you are as a person. When you learn to love yourself and accept yourself you have less of a need to have someone else validate you as a person. So even when someone is in a marriage/relationship if you are not getting what you need at home, you should address that with your spouse/partner and work that out amongst yourself. Don't turn to another male or female with your problems, or to make you feel better about yourself. That only brings more drama and confusion into the situation. People are on the outside looking in like animals waiting to prey on other animals. When a person see's that there is a crack in your foundation, they always feel it is a way for them to slip into the cracks. Keep your foundation strong by repairing all cracks with the person you are in a relationship with, not seeking the advice of others. Pray and keep your union sealed with the word of God. God gives and takes away, so if you are not taking care of the person that God gifted to you, and they walk out of your life, you have no one to blame but yourself. RELATIONSHIPS take WORK, you can not keep a relationship going strong by slacking off and thinking it will be nurtured, nourished and cared for on it's own. Talk is cheap and only actions prove what your intentions really are.

Who do you turn to?

I am never at a loss for words, I can express myself with no hesitation. When life throws us curve balls, obstacle, storms,and disappointments it is sometimes hard to understand why. Often those times hit us when we least expect it, but we must always look at life on a half full point of view. Sometimes the things that happen is God's way of showing us something, protecting us from something, or preparing us for something. We may not always understand what is going on, but always trust in God, because just the way he brings us to it, he will bring us through it. Feeling the need to release a balloon with a message attached, and watching it rise up to the Father. When life hits me, I turn to prayer, I never allow things to take me out of my peaceful place, God is my Rock, and when I am confused, unsure, feeling lost he comforts me, guides me and protects me. Who do you turn to, or what do you do when life hands you an unexpected circumstance?