Do you know your a Queen?

When a person needs others to validate their worth and who they are, they need to develop self love. Obviously if you need to hear from others that you are beautiful, that you are intelligent, worthy, and capable then you don't believe in yourself enough to make it on your own. So many people say they love themselves yet their entire world is turned upside down when either they don't have a man, or they have a failed relationship. We as women need to know that self love is the best love, when we love ourselves we can be strong, we can make it through anything, and truth be said, God has made us bendable, but not breakable, We can make it through anything. We must trust in ourselves to know that we can accomplish anything and everything we set our minds to, that power to achieve resides in us. It is our faith that allows us to hold on, to persevere and reach whatever goals we set for ourselves. This includes relationships. If we continue to get into relationships where we are abused, disrespected, used, treated unfairly, talked down to and more we must stop and look at ourselves. Why are we allowing these types of men into our lives? Why don't we feel that we deserve better? Why is it ok for a man to degrade, humiliate, speak to you disrespectfully or even put their hands on you. I don't know about anyone else, but I am a Queen. If others don't see me as such,that has no bearings on how I view myself. I shall not, will not ever allow a man to call me anything other than my name, I don't joke with females in that way either. I respect women as women, and will never call my friends a B%#*!, or any other derogatory name. If we do it to one another, or even ourselves, how can you get mad if a man calls you out your name when you call yourself a Boss B%#*!,? Well I write this to say, we as women must love ourselves, respect ourselves, and one another, and expect anyone and everyone we encounter to treat us as the Queens God intended for us to be.

Be a lover of life, and people

When others are looking at you from the outside they can only speculate and assume they know you. More often than not, many won't take the time to get to know you. I love getting to know people. I find people very interesting, and I always seem to learn something from everyone I meet. Sometimes it's good things, and sometimes not so good but you do learn from everyone you meet. We are all books so to speak, we all have a story. If I could share my book with the world it would be titled, The Woman who loved Fully. I put my all into those I love. I am a lover of people, places and things that matter. I live each day with a smile, with dreams and thoughts of happiness. I embrace life, and don't dwell on the negative things that seem to consume the minds and lives of many. I am a believer in what you put out in the universe is reflected in your life. If you give, share, respect and embrace love, the universe will reflect that in your life. It is often important to look at our lives and what we are going through, if it is more bad than good, take a look at the life you are living, and change what we are putting out into the universe.

It's ok to be alone

I realize that No one wants to be alone. However, many are using poor judgment when choosing a companion. Gods plan is not for us to be alone but too many people are not waiting on God, following his path or listening for his instructions. How do you know that you are off path? If your relationship is constantly putting you through, if your giving chance after chance and things still don't seem to be any better, it may be signs that you are not where God wants you to be. Now listen close because I'm not saying that in a relationship you don't endure, because everyone goes through trails and tribulations but trust there is a difference in arguing over not spending enough time together, not helping out around the house, not rubbing your back or being more attentive and someone cheating time and time again, someone who is not a team player in the relationship and leaving you with a heavy burden, someone who is controlling, obsessive and or abusive physically, emotionally, verbally or mentally. We can not change anyone, we can only change ourselves and we will either change to know what we want and deserve or we can change to fit into someone else's world and make them happy. Changing ourselves to benefit someone else is never the right choice. We also can not change someone else no matter how hard we try, that person has to want and be willing to make changes themselves to benefit themselves not for another person. Everlasting change is change that we want for ourselves, changing for someone else is always temporary because when things don't work out they revert back to themselves until the next candidate comes along that requires you to change for them. Sometimes GOD wants us to be alone, he wants us to wait, be still, meditate on his word, stop and listen to his instructions and he will place the right person in our path. Don't allow a need to be with someone make you choose just anyone. SheUplifts, The Postal Pen VSJ~

It's worth it!

Life is a beautiful thing, but in living that life we encounter lots of things, both good and bad. I am a positive happy go lucky person, but I am very aware of life and all that life can put us through. My focus is to stay happy, uplift others and inspire others to believe in themselves, believe that all things are possible, and that they can control how they react to things. I am that person who loves to see everyone happy, and I worry about others.I know I cannot save the world But that doesn't stop me from wanting to. Sometimes I get overwhelmed with worry, holding the weight of the world on my shoulders and in my mind. It's kind of stressful, but then I know that God doesn't put on us more than we can bare. I pray my way through the worry, the stress and the thoughts of all that I would like to do, but me being only one person, only me how can I possibly accomplish all the things that are in my heart, my head and in my soul. My faith will allow me to do as much as I can, it will help me to make it as far as God has laid out my path and when things get tough I know I can always depend on him. It's just so hard to be strong, so hard to maintain the weight Of the world on my shoulders, so hard to keep it all together when it all seems like so much. Through it all I say it's worth it, it's worth every struggle, every challenge and all the worry in the world, if I can save not only my kids but to touch the lives of many. WHAT IS WORTH THE STRUGGLE FOR YOU?

What do you do, to get you through the storm?

Have you ever set goals and didn't reach them? Have you ever started something and didn't finish? Well it occasionally happens to us all. Never allow a temporary setback to keep you from reaching your dream. The devil is always busy and his goal is to throw us off path. Falling down, is a natural thing, many of us set our minds to do things and life gets in the way, causing us to stumble, fall, or come to a complete halt. That doesn't mean we can not get back to our lives, pick up where we left off and complete our goals. Whenever I hit a rough patch in life, I pray. I pray letting God know my problems, I pray that he gets me through, and I pray for the strength and courage to follow my course. Praying is a big part of my life,it helps me to stay connected, and to keep calm when the storms arise.Prayer is my connection with God. I learned a long time ago that prayer helps me to keep my connection with God, to get me through hard times, and to keep me at a level of sanity and calm. Everyone has their techniques on what they do to stay calm, Mine is through prayer, what is yours? Yoga, meditating? Reading, Exercise or what?

She Uplifts (The Postal Pen): How I experience Joy

She Uplifts (The Postal Pen): How I experience Joy: Life is short and over the years I have learned that you have to create your own happiness. It is a plus when you have someone who makes y...

How I experience Joy

Life is short and over the years I have learned that you have to create your own happiness. It is a plus when you have someone who makes you happy, but even then, they will not make you happy all the time. I create my happiness, I do this by being mindful of how I react to things that can potentially make me unhappy. Life affects us all, there will be countless incidents and occasions that will alter our mood and our feelings but when we CHOOSE to be happy despite the situations is where we take back our power. I encounter things all the time that make me upset or unhappy, but I say to myself You can let this continue to make you miserable for the entire day, or you can say this too shall pass (I love this saying), and know that God has handled much worse situations in my life and brought me from the bottom to the top every time. You see you have to believe that you are in control of your emotions, you have to have faith that GOD is bigger than any Storm (Life situations) that comes your way. Choose to be happy, Choose to experience joy. Walk in Joy/ Not Chaos, VSJ~