Living in Faith

For the most part I am a very positive person, I try to always remain positive and make decisions based on my Faith and belief system. I pray on things and then take action based on what I believe is my ordered steps. That may sound weird to some but that's my norm. I act and step out on Faith because I trust in GOD. I am able to walk away from things, people and situations that I don't believe are the best for me without looking back because of that same belief system. Not everyone believes in themselves enough to walk away from a job, or career and take a chance on what makes them happy. I can not stay at a place where I am unhappy. It sucks the life out of me and leaves me empty inside. To continue to work somewhere where I don't feel productive and doesn't bring me any type of gratification in my eyes is a dream stealer. Sure I am making someone else's dreams come true while mine is slowly dying. That has never been the type of life I could get use to. I believe my connection with the universe, a higher power MY GOD allows me to stay in tune with the path he has chosen for me. I will always be led by faith, how about you?

Tapping Into Your Inner Happiness

Hello All I look at the world around me and I see so many Unhappy people. Many waste their days complaining, Fussing, cursing life because things are not as they See fit. I know at times life gets hard, we all Face challenges and obstacles that make Life difficult yet it is a waste of life to use our days and time to complain daily. We all Know that complaining changes absolutely NOTHING! Spend as much time speaking life into your world, Positive thoughts, uplifting and inspiring words. The more you choose to tap into the happiness Within you, the more you will see life Beginning to unfold positively all around you. Try it, use positive affirmations, use the bible Verses to uplift and keep your thoughts happy. You will see a change in your life in a very Positive way. VSJ~ Stay Uplifted, Be Inspired VSJ~

The new love of my life

Hello All I haven't been on in a while, I now have such a full life. I thought it was full before, but now it is really full. Not only am I a Mom, Wife and Author, I am a GiGi aka Grandmother to a beautiful, happy and amazing baby boy. He is now 7 months and I have been super busy loving him up. He is my sunshine, my moon, and the stars to me. I love him beyond measure. He has his GiGi wrapped around his finger. Now the things I do daily are for him, so his future can me secure. I will try to post monthly to share with you all positive thoughts, encouraging words, and uplifting and inspirational thoughts. Stay Blessed, VSJ~

Doing what you love

Life is about living, enjoying and doing the things we love. If we spend it day in, and day out doing what we dislike, hate or feel uncomfortable doing just because someone else feels it's what we should be doing then are we truly enjoying life? I know that there are some things that have to be done in order to make a living, pay the bills, and feed your families but if those things are not bringing you some form of happiness, why not look to do what you love for a profit? Many of us have skills, talents, and ideas that can be quite profitable, so why not use them for gain. I am not saying it will be easier to work for yourself, but I am saying it will be worth it if it is important to you. Actually working for yourself could actually be harder than working for someone else. We must find the time to get things done, build your business, network, market your business and so much more. So in order to have a profitable business you must put in 100 times more work to make it thrive. Think about what you love to do, figure out a way to make that bring in an income, and work at doing what you love to do daily.

Sisterhood of Like Minded Individuals

It is imperative that we have bonds with other females. A sisterhood of like minded individuals that are ultimately after the same goal, and don't mind helping one another get to the top. I appreciate women helping women and this short blog is just to give appreciation to a few women who are constantly helping others along the way. AUTHOR SHARNEL WILLIAMS, Author Nicole Martin, Yara Kaleemah, Authoress Crystal Alexis, Treats N Things Author LSO, and My Kinda Thing. Thank You Ladies for all seeing the ultimate vision Success.🙏

Do you know your a Queen?

When a person needs others to validate their worth and who they are, they need to develop self love. Obviously if you need to hear from others that you are beautiful, that you are intelligent, worthy, and capable then you don't believe in yourself enough to make it on your own. So many people say they love themselves yet their entire world is turned upside down when either they don't have a man, or they have a failed relationship. We as women need to know that self love is the best love, when we love ourselves we can be strong, we can make it through anything, and truth be said, God has made us bendable, but not breakable, We can make it through anything. We must trust in ourselves to know that we can accomplish anything and everything we set our minds to, that power to achieve resides in us. It is our faith that allows us to hold on, to persevere and reach whatever goals we set for ourselves. This includes relationships. If we continue to get into relationships where we are abused, disrespected, used, treated unfairly, talked down to and more we must stop and look at ourselves. Why are we allowing these types of men into our lives? Why don't we feel that we deserve better? Why is it ok for a man to degrade, humiliate, speak to you disrespectfully or even put their hands on you. I don't know about anyone else, but I am a Queen. If others don't see me as such,that has no bearings on how I view myself. I shall not, will not ever allow a man to call me anything other than my name, I don't joke with females in that way either. I respect women as women, and will never call my friends a B%#*!, or any other derogatory name. If we do it to one another, or even ourselves, how can you get mad if a man calls you out your name when you call yourself a Boss B%#*!,? Well I write this to say, we as women must love ourselves, respect ourselves, and one another, and expect anyone and everyone we encounter to treat us as the Queens God intended for us to be.

Be a lover of life, and people

When others are looking at you from the outside they can only speculate and assume they know you. More often than not, many won't take the time to get to know you. I love getting to know people. I find people very interesting, and I always seem to learn something from everyone I meet. Sometimes it's good things, and sometimes not so good but you do learn from everyone you meet. We are all books so to speak, we all have a story. If I could share my book with the world it would be titled, The Woman who loved Fully. I put my all into those I love. I am a lover of people, places and things that matter. I live each day with a smile, with dreams and thoughts of happiness. I embrace life, and don't dwell on the negative things that seem to consume the minds and lives of many. I am a believer in what you put out in the universe is reflected in your life. If you give, share, respect and embrace love, the universe will reflect that in your life. It is often important to look at our lives and what we are going through, if it is more bad than good, take a look at the life you are living, and change what we are putting out into the universe.

It's ok to be alone

I realize that No one wants to be alone. However, many are using poor judgment when choosing a companion. Gods plan is not for us to be alone but too many people are not waiting on God, following his path or listening for his instructions. How do you know that you are off path? If your relationship is constantly putting you through, if your giving chance after chance and things still don't seem to be any better, it may be signs that you are not where God wants you to be. Now listen close because I'm not saying that in a relationship you don't endure, because everyone goes through trails and tribulations but trust there is a difference in arguing over not spending enough time together, not helping out around the house, not rubbing your back or being more attentive and someone cheating time and time again, someone who is not a team player in the relationship and leaving you with a heavy burden, someone who is controlling, obsessive and or abusive physically, emotionally, verbally or mentally. We can not change anyone, we can only change ourselves and we will either change to know what we want and deserve or we can change to fit into someone else's world and make them happy. Changing ourselves to benefit someone else is never the right choice. We also can not change someone else no matter how hard we try, that person has to want and be willing to make changes themselves to benefit themselves not for another person. Everlasting change is change that we want for ourselves, changing for someone else is always temporary because when things don't work out they revert back to themselves until the next candidate comes along that requires you to change for them. Sometimes GOD wants us to be alone, he wants us to wait, be still, meditate on his word, stop and listen to his instructions and he will place the right person in our path. Don't allow a need to be with someone make you choose just anyone. SheUplifts, The Postal Pen VSJ~

It's worth it!

Life is a beautiful thing, but in living that life we encounter lots of things, both good and bad. I am a positive happy go lucky person, but I am very aware of life and all that life can put us through. My focus is to stay happy, uplift others and inspire others to believe in themselves, believe that all things are possible, and that they can control how they react to things. I am that person who loves to see everyone happy, and I worry about others.I know I cannot save the world But that doesn't stop me from wanting to. Sometimes I get overwhelmed with worry, holding the weight of the world on my shoulders and in my mind. It's kind of stressful, but then I know that God doesn't put on us more than we can bare. I pray my way through the worry, the stress and the thoughts of all that I would like to do, but me being only one person, only me how can I possibly accomplish all the things that are in my heart, my head and in my soul. My faith will allow me to do as much as I can, it will help me to make it as far as God has laid out my path and when things get tough I know I can always depend on him. It's just so hard to be strong, so hard to maintain the weight Of the world on my shoulders, so hard to keep it all together when it all seems like so much. Through it all I say it's worth it, it's worth every struggle, every challenge and all the worry in the world, if I can save not only my kids but to touch the lives of many. WHAT IS WORTH THE STRUGGLE FOR YOU?

What do you do, to get you through the storm?

Have you ever set goals and didn't reach them? Have you ever started something and didn't finish? Well it occasionally happens to us all. Never allow a temporary setback to keep you from reaching your dream. The devil is always busy and his goal is to throw us off path. Falling down, is a natural thing, many of us set our minds to do things and life gets in the way, causing us to stumble, fall, or come to a complete halt. That doesn't mean we can not get back to our lives, pick up where we left off and complete our goals. Whenever I hit a rough patch in life, I pray. I pray letting God know my problems, I pray that he gets me through, and I pray for the strength and courage to follow my course. Praying is a big part of my life,it helps me to stay connected, and to keep calm when the storms arise.Prayer is my connection with God. I learned a long time ago that prayer helps me to keep my connection with God, to get me through hard times, and to keep me at a level of sanity and calm. Everyone has their techniques on what they do to stay calm, Mine is through prayer, what is yours? Yoga, meditating? Reading, Exercise or what?

She Uplifts (The Postal Pen): How I experience Joy

She Uplifts (The Postal Pen): How I experience Joy: Life is short and over the years I have learned that you have to create your own happiness. It is a plus when you have someone who makes y...

How I experience Joy

Life is short and over the years I have learned that you have to create your own happiness. It is a plus when you have someone who makes you happy, but even then, they will not make you happy all the time. I create my happiness, I do this by being mindful of how I react to things that can potentially make me unhappy. Life affects us all, there will be countless incidents and occasions that will alter our mood and our feelings but when we CHOOSE to be happy despite the situations is where we take back our power. I encounter things all the time that make me upset or unhappy, but I say to myself You can let this continue to make you miserable for the entire day, or you can say this too shall pass (I love this saying), and know that God has handled much worse situations in my life and brought me from the bottom to the top every time. You see you have to believe that you are in control of your emotions, you have to have faith that GOD is bigger than any Storm (Life situations) that comes your way. Choose to be happy, Choose to experience joy. Walk in Joy/ Not Chaos, VSJ~

Some people need validation.

In life everyone needs and wants to feel important, but not all of us need that from just anyone. Usually it is someone you love, like your spouse, parents, your child. Many men and women feel the need to gain attention of people on the outside rather than getting that attention at home. One should not need to have an other human being make them feel special. You should have confidence in who you are as a person. When you learn to love yourself and accept yourself you have less of a need to have someone else validate you as a person. So even when someone is in a marriage/relationship if you are not getting what you need at home, you should address that with your spouse/partner and work that out amongst yourself. Don't turn to another male or female with your problems, or to make you feel better about yourself. That only brings more drama and confusion into the situation. People are on the outside looking in like animals waiting to prey on other animals. When a person see's that there is a crack in your foundation, they always feel it is a way for them to slip into the cracks. Keep your foundation strong by repairing all cracks with the person you are in a relationship with, not seeking the advice of others. Pray and keep your union sealed with the word of God. God gives and takes away, so if you are not taking care of the person that God gifted to you, and they walk out of your life, you have no one to blame but yourself. RELATIONSHIPS take WORK, you can not keep a relationship going strong by slacking off and thinking it will be nurtured, nourished and cared for on it's own. Talk is cheap and only actions prove what your intentions really are.

Who do you turn to?

I am never at a loss for words, I can express myself with no hesitation. When life throws us curve balls, obstacle, storms,and disappointments it is sometimes hard to understand why. Often those times hit us when we least expect it, but we must always look at life on a half full point of view. Sometimes the things that happen is God's way of showing us something, protecting us from something, or preparing us for something. We may not always understand what is going on, but always trust in God, because just the way he brings us to it, he will bring us through it. Feeling the need to release a balloon with a message attached, and watching it rise up to the Father. When life hits me, I turn to prayer, I never allow things to take me out of my peaceful place, God is my Rock, and when I am confused, unsure, feeling lost he comforts me, guides me and protects me. Who do you turn to, or what do you do when life hands you an unexpected circumstance?

Living despite the obstacles

I feel it is important to keep a positive state of mind no matter what you encounter in life. We must not allow the negativity of others to influence our lives, nor allow a bad circumstance to alter our paths. Many of us, have a path in which we are trying to follow, goals, dreams, a calling and the devil is busy so there will be obstacles that will come up, from time to time, and if we allow it to distract us, we will be thrown off course. Life hits us at the most unexpected times, things like loss of a job, loss of a loved one, financial issues and even health issue. However;we must always remember that EVERYONE, faces the same challenges at some point in their lives. It is how we handle what we face that makes us or breaks us. Have you ever notices that when some people lose a job it is the end of the world? They fall apart, get depressed, don't know what to do or how they will make it. Yet others, they handle things differently. They feel when one door closes, another will open, they keep faith in a higher power and believe that all things happen for a reason, and they wait in patience knowing that something better is on it's way. I am also a believer that a negative attitude, brings about more negativity. When I am having a not so great day, I turn things around by thinking about the things I am blessed with, the things that make me happy, and force the negative thoughts, or emotions away. Despite what you believe you are in control of your emotions. Choose to be happy, choose to receive joy, abundance, peace, love and kindness. If you want to be happy, YOU MUST BE HAPPY!, VSJ~ AKA She Uplifts, The Postal Pen Here are a few books I highly recommend.

JMO- Just My Opinion

Today I will be speaking on relationships. I am in no way an expert or pretend to be. I just observe what I see and base my opinions on what I am seeing. I feel that many are getting into relationships too soon, without first getting to know the person they are dating before jumping into titles and commitments. It takes time to get to know anyone, whether its a friend, significant other. People are dating and in a few weeks they are already claiming a title, what do you really know about someone in a matter of weeks? Even months can go by and you still may not know who you are really dating. Some people let their wall down and give themselves up to another very quickly where others it may take years for the wall to slowly come down. It is important to take your time, do your research, yes! Investigate who you are getting involved with. Meet their family before having children with them. Some people have bad past experiences that if not dealt with correctly can carry over into your present situation. A person who has been abused, and have not sought out the help they need, or maybe they were an abuser but never gotten counseling, these are situations that will eventually surface in the future. If your dating someone who has cheated on everyone they have ever dated, but you feel your special and it won't happen with you, chances are your fooling yourself. Sometimes the idea of being in a relationship, the idea of being in love, the idea of having someone to call your own is so overpowering that it leads us to latch on to what we think is the real thing, but we realize later on that what we did was jump into a situation that we thought we could make into what we wanted. ( I hope you understand what I just said). Scenario #1 You just met a man or woman on Monday, sleep with him (and I am stretching this out), on Wednesday, on Friday that is your boyfriend/girlfriend, and on Monday of the following week your posting I love my man/woman. Don't you think that is too soon? RED FLAG- Slow down, your rushing things get to know him/her take your time, what do you know about his/her past sexual history? Scenario #2 You meet her Monday, sleep with her the same week. He is already claiming your his girl, he starts to tell you he doesn't like your friends and wants you to stop hanging out with them, he says your beautiful, but doesn't want you to wear certain clothing, he calls you many times a day, has to know what your doing at all times. You think it's cute; "Awe, he misses me, or Awe he is jealous that means he loves me". RED FLAG- Potential controller, stalker, abuser. Scenario #3 Signs of jealousy, control and anger is present, but overall he/she is a sweet loving person. You feel I can change him/her. All they need is love, it will all be ok. RED FLAG- Be aware of the warning signs. Broken people need help, professional help. They can't be fixed with love. Scenario #4 I love him, but he has a record. He can't seem to get a job, it's ok I will hold him down. Love is about more than money. I work, pay the bills and as long as he loves me we are good. I find this to be a trend now, many woman are working taking care of men who are not working, calling them "A MAN", in some instances it is ok, for the man to stay home, take care of the kids, and the house and be Mr.Mom, However if he is home all day, running the streets or laid up doing nothing all day and waiting for you to come home, buy the food, cook the food and take care of him. RED FLAG- Your raising up a lazy man. The bible says if a man don't work, he don't eat. I think this is the same for a man. A man should not be with a woman who has no motivation to do more in life. JMO (Just my opinion).

In my feelings, Life is so much more.

Some days I get so emotional about things that matter to me. It is not a bad thing, I just strongly feel that many of the young children growing up behind us are lost.

I feel they need direction, support, guidance, and inspiration. If they are shown more than what they see on TV, videos, in songs and in the world they might actually have some hope. Many of the youth are not exposed to anything except what they see on TV or the lyrics they listen to. What happened to teaching our children about culture, diversity, showing them that there is more to life than the city, town they live in. I remember raising my kids, taking them to museums, taking them on trips outside of where we lived and allowing them to explore life through literature. Today if a child is not glued to a video game, music video or a computer, they are not having fun. They don't know what it is to have fun!Teach a child that life has so much to offer, let them know that traveling, exploring the world and positive opportunities opens doors, it opens their minds to life and what's out there. Make family time a ritual, weekly outings with your children, taking them to some place new and somewhere they can learn and gain knowledge. If a child grows up and all they see is the same thing over and over again, how do you expect them to be any different from what they see on a daily basis? We must broaden their chances of not being like the masses by means of exposure. Expose your child to more then the latest fashion. Life is much more than how fly, how much swag or style our kids have. Just thinking out loud.

You are more!

Life is funny, many people judge you by how you look, how you dress, the shape of your body, the size of your clothing and the job you hold. I think life is about way more than that. You can have a good job and be unhappy, have a beautiful face and body, and be unhappy and unhealthy, you can be the perfect size and still be unhappy. I have seen many judge family, friends based on who looks the best, whose shape is better, whose hair texture is better or hair is longer. I want to believe that I am more than my size, my hair, my shape, my dress, my job or what people use to judge from the outside looking in. I want to be known for my personality, how I treat others, how I love my friends and family, how I impact the world through my encouraging words, how I uplift my fellow sister's and brother's, how I raise my kids, how I am a great wife. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I want God to be my beholder. I am so much more than what you see on the outside, and so are you. Let your actions, your walk, your deeds show who you are. Be blessed and make a positive difference in the world. 'VSJ, She Uplifts, aka The Postal Pen.

What I do won't make me rich, but it makes me happy.

I often say that "what I do, won't make me rich, but it makes me happy". I say this because to me, it is important to do what makes me happy. Many look to get rich, I look to of course make a profit, but I am not trying to get rich. I love what I do, and the reward of being Happy doing what I do, far greater exceeds the rewards I gain financially. Money is good, we need it to pay bills, feed ourselves and our families, but being happy is richness, it is a blessing, it is a far greater reward in my opinion. I know that many disagree with that because if they had a choice of being happy and being rich, many will choose to be rich, because they feel money will buy or make them happy. What are your thoughts? I love feedback.

A Mother's Love

When a mother love she loves hard she loves strong she loves deeply she loves unconditionally

I wanted to write about how a mother loves because, our mother's are the first to love us. A mother carries us inside of her for nine months, and in those nine months she already starts to bond and fall in love with us. A mother is our first caregivers, she is the one who is there to hold, nurture, comfort and protect us. Not everyone has a mother who has guided them on the right path, some people are close to their mother's and others are not. Since a mother is that first female relationship that we have in our lives do you think it affects how we handle future relationships with other females? We learn to trust our mother's, and some mother's were not good mother's. Some mother's don't show love, are hard on the child, abusive, mentally, verbally and physically. Some mother's don't act like mother's at all. If you had a bad relationship with your mother don't let it ruin your relationship with your own children. We all have choices in life, we can either be like our mother's good or bad, or we can be our own person, and love our children, despite how we were treated. Being a mother doesn't come with a handbook, there are no perfect mother's out there, but you have the choice to be the best mother you can. So love fully, deeply, strongly and unconditionally.