Some people need validation.

In life everyone needs and wants to feel important, but not all of us need that from just anyone. Usually it is someone you love, like your spouse, parents, your child. Many men and women feel the need to gain attention of people on the outside rather than getting that attention at home. One should not need to have an other human being make them feel special. You should have confidence in who you are as a person. When you learn to love yourself and accept yourself you have less of a need to have someone else validate you as a person. So even when someone is in a marriage/relationship if you are not getting what you need at home, you should address that with your spouse/partner and work that out amongst yourself. Don't turn to another male or female with your problems, or to make you feel better about yourself. That only brings more drama and confusion into the situation. People are on the outside looking in like animals waiting to prey on other animals. When a person see's that there is a crack in your foundation, they always feel it is a way for them to slip into the cracks. Keep your foundation strong by repairing all cracks with the person you are in a relationship with, not seeking the advice of others. Pray and keep your union sealed with the word of God. God gives and takes away, so if you are not taking care of the person that God gifted to you, and they walk out of your life, you have no one to blame but yourself. RELATIONSHIPS take WORK, you can not keep a relationship going strong by slacking off and thinking it will be nurtured, nourished and cared for on it's own. Talk is cheap and only actions prove what your intentions really are.

Who do you turn to?

I am never at a loss for words, I can express myself with no hesitation. When life throws us curve balls, obstacle, storms,and disappointments it is sometimes hard to understand why. Often those times hit us when we least expect it, but we must always look at life on a half full point of view. Sometimes the things that happen is God's way of showing us something, protecting us from something, or preparing us for something. We may not always understand what is going on, but always trust in God, because just the way he brings us to it, he will bring us through it. Feeling the need to release a balloon with a message attached, and watching it rise up to the Father. When life hits me, I turn to prayer, I never allow things to take me out of my peaceful place, God is my Rock, and when I am confused, unsure, feeling lost he comforts me, guides me and protects me. Who do you turn to, or what do you do when life hands you an unexpected circumstance?

Living despite the obstacles

I feel it is important to keep a positive state of mind no matter what you encounter in life. We must not allow the negativity of others to influence our lives, nor allow a bad circumstance to alter our paths. Many of us, have a path in which we are trying to follow, goals, dreams, a calling and the devil is busy so there will be obstacles that will come up, from time to time, and if we allow it to distract us, we will be thrown off course. Life hits us at the most unexpected times, things like loss of a job, loss of a loved one, financial issues and even health issue. However;we must always remember that EVERYONE, faces the same challenges at some point in their lives. It is how we handle what we face that makes us or breaks us. Have you ever notices that when some people lose a job it is the end of the world? They fall apart, get depressed, don't know what to do or how they will make it. Yet others, they handle things differently. They feel when one door closes, another will open, they keep faith in a higher power and believe that all things happen for a reason, and they wait in patience knowing that something better is on it's way. I am also a believer that a negative attitude, brings about more negativity. When I am having a not so great day, I turn things around by thinking about the things I am blessed with, the things that make me happy, and force the negative thoughts, or emotions away. Despite what you believe you are in control of your emotions. Choose to be happy, choose to receive joy, abundance, peace, love and kindness. If you want to be happy, YOU MUST BE HAPPY!, VSJ~ AKA She Uplifts, The Postal Pen Here are a few books I highly recommend.