Some people need validation.

In life everyone needs and wants to feel important, but not all of us need that from just anyone. Usually it is someone you love, like your spouse, parents, your child. Many men and women feel the need to gain attention of people on the outside rather than getting that attention at home. One should not need to have an other human being make them feel special. You should have confidence in who you are as a person. When you learn to love yourself and accept yourself you have less of a need to have someone else validate you as a person. So even when someone is in a marriage/relationship if you are not getting what you need at home, you should address that with your spouse/partner and work that out amongst yourself. Don't turn to another male or female with your problems, or to make you feel better about yourself. That only brings more drama and confusion into the situation. People are on the outside looking in like animals waiting to prey on other animals. When a person see's that there is a crack in your foundation, they always feel it is a way for them to slip into the cracks. Keep your foundation strong by repairing all cracks with the person you are in a relationship with, not seeking the advice of others. Pray and keep your union sealed with the word of God. God gives and takes away, so if you are not taking care of the person that God gifted to you, and they walk out of your life, you have no one to blame but yourself. RELATIONSHIPS take WORK, you can not keep a relationship going strong by slacking off and thinking it will be nurtured, nourished and cared for on it's own. Talk is cheap and only actions prove what your intentions really are.